Essay on The Broken Promise- Personal Narrative
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The Broken Promise- Personal Narrative
“Thirty years ago in this very room, my father told me a few things, things that I want to tell you today. He said life offers you many paths to choose from. You have to choose the one that is right, the one where you never have to bend down, one where you never fall. Never take any step that will bring shame to your family name or prestige. I have not forgotten his words till today, and neither should you.
Promise me that you will follow the traditions of this family.
Promise me that you will never compromise the self respect of this family.”
“I promise Papa, that I will always keep the family name flying high. I promise you that I will always keep…show more content…
Tears of happiness welled up in my eyes as I said thank you. But, unfortunately, that wasn’t all. He had another announcement to make.
“I have great pleasure in finally being able to say this after twenty years Rahul, we have set the date of your marriage.”
I stared at him in utter disbelief waiting to see if he was being serious. I managed to stutter after a few minutes.
“Yes. To Naina. You were promised to Naina at the age of four and the time has come to make that dream of our children getting married come true and us to turn into family.” He said turning towards Naina’s father.
Those tears were turning from happiness to tears of sadness, as I knew I couldn’t marry her but I had no choice. I glared at Naina who was happily smiling and toasting to the occasion as if everything was planned like this. How could I object to this after all they’d done for me? I would have no one if it wasn’t for him. They had adopted me when I was a young boy, my real father passed away and I had no one left so I will always be grateful to him for doing that. Even though they had another son after me they never treated me as an outsider. I was their son and no one was going to change that.
I was trapped in a box with invisible walls that even if I pushed with all my might I could find no way out of. Claustrophobia was getting the better of
As a rule, when we promise ourselves that we'll do something, or promise to stop doing something, we feel it's for our own good. We believe that life will be more satisfying with the change. What we often fail to take into account is that the promise is not just about improving relationships or conditions in one's life, but it's also a test of integrity.
To have integrity is to honor one's word, to know that we won't do anything unexpected or surprising that would have us break our word, and to recommit to our word if we find ourselves faltering.
It always feels rewarding to change our behavior in ways that improve our lives. And it feels even better to know that we can rely on ourselves to keep the promises we make to ourselves.
Keeping our promises is key to experiencing life as we dream it can be. That's what empowers us to dream big, to grow into and occupy that dream, and then to outgrow that dream and dream even bigger dreams. And in the process, gain all of the approval we will ever need -- our own.
Perhaps you can't always predict exactly how your promise will change your outer conditions, but it is 'satisfaction guaranteed' that if you keep your word to yourself, you will feel strong and confident inwardly.
When you can rely on your word, you tap into your natural talent for correcting anything that prevents a clear line of communication between your intention and your action. That is precisely the talent that makes it easy to break the back of excuse-making and procrastination.
When a person makes a habit of keeping his promises, he experiences incorruptibility between his thoughts and his feelings. Furthermore, he finds providence moving in unexpected ways, supporting him with his aspirations and aims. Life can be delightfully surprising when we take responsibility for being purposeful with our promises.
Here are three tips that will help you enhance your energy level when you make yourself a promise:
1. Consider your promise a contract with yourself.
Be specific about what you intend to do or stop doing. Be definite about the results you expect for keeping your promise. Reflect on why the results are important to you. What are your conditions of successful completion, and what is the value you get? Be clear about the importance of this contract.
2. Initiate a logical plan of action.
When will you begin to fulfill on your promise? Where will you be, or with whom will you be? It's especially important that you pay attention to those moments when it's most vital that you keep your promise. This isn't about wishful thinking. Initiate and act like your self-esteem depends on it. It does.
3. Before making the promise, be certain you have the skill-sets needed to fulfill on it. Are you prepared to do whatever it takes to carry out your promise? Do you have the necessary skills and resources to take care of business? If there's more preparation needed, or you lack the resources right now, then you cannot promise with confidence. So, don't commit yet. You may make an honest misjudgment, but you don't want to promise yourself something that you already can see is destined to fail. That's self-sabotage.
Reflect for a moment. Can you think of any particular self-promise that you've broken? Did you consider it as important as a contract? Did you have an action plan in place? Given your skills and resources at the time, did you simply promise yourself too much, too soon?
An important gain comes with enduring the discomfort of noticing your broken promises -- it offers you the opportunity to clean it up, thus creating a more trusting relationship with yourself. Considering your promises revered agreements, and taking your word seriously, gives you incredible focus and clarity. How sweet the results can be -- both outwardly and inwardly.
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